Frost Family Fun: November 2014

Bodi Michael Frost

On September 3rd, 2013 little Bodi Michael Frost was born. He was 7 lbs 8 oz and 21 inches long and had tons of blonde hair that is to die for. He is perfect in every single way possible. We adore him!

The back story on this little guy is that we have wanted him for quite awhile now. When Shaylee was around 3 I went off birth control. Nothing happened. When she was around 4 Shane's friend's little baby made him want another one even more but we both knew that time was not on our side because of age. He was 37 I was 35. We let some time go by to see if it would just happen but it didn't so I finally went to the doctor and got put on clomid which is the same medication I was on with Shaylee. I was on clomid for 6 to 8 months.

I've always wanted at least 4 kids. I look at my Mom with 7 and how wonderful it is for all of us to get together with our own little families. It is probably my favorite thing to do. I look forward to holidays so much for this very reason. I just love my siblings and their families. So I look at my life and I have this one little girl who will marry someone who will take her away from me some day and she'll visit Mom and Dad every other holiday and what do I have to look forward to? What a sad sad future. I have to have more babies! On the other hand, Shaylee is 5 and if we have another baby will they be so far apart they won't enjoy their relationship? We will be starting over from scratch and babies are no cake walk. How will I work and stay up with a baby at night? All these doubts would fill my mind. But I would always go back to my patriarchal blessing that talks about my children. As in multiple kids. So I never really felt hopeless about it like I did with Shaylee. However, the doctor was saying if the clomid didn't work in the next month she would refer me to a fertility specialist. Then the question comes to mind. How far are we willing to go to have another baby? We can't afford all of these expensive options.

So one day I prayed. I told Heavenly Father I was going off of the clomid. I told him I would not be able to do the fertility treatments and that if there was another spirit for our family then please send him to us. I went off the clomid and the very next month I found out I was pregnant.

I kept it to myself for a couple of weeks. For some reason I was unsure how Shane would react. I was worried he wouldn't be happy. Work had slowed for him and I know he worries about money so much and this would stress him out. We were watching the Super Bowl and I was feeling sick. Shane said, "Maybe you're pregnant." I told him I was and his immediate reaction was, "Why didn't you tell me?". He was taken aback but said he was happy. Shaylee was VERY happy. She had wanted a baby for a long long time.

Finally the day of the 20 week ultrasound came. We were all adamant that we wanted a girl. I just had zero desire to have a boy. ZERO. The ultrasound tech asked us what we were hoping for and we all said GIRL. She kind of chuckled and said it's a BOY. I was NOT happy. None of us were. I just couldn't get my mind around it. It was such a major disappointment. I feel horrible about that now as I type this because I think of this precious perfect little boy that I adore and I think, "if I only knew." Heavenly Father did know and we love love love our little boy. For a long time it brought up some weird bad feelings though. I just didn't have an interest in anything boy. I was bitter for quite awhile.

Picking Bodi's name was not easy either. That's another thing about boys. There are no fun names. Boy names seem either very biblical or outright weird. Shane and I could agree on nothing. I kind of liked the name Liam and Shane's choice was Saylor. We were just not on the same page. So when I said Bodi Shane said he liked it. We could just never agree on anything else so Bodi it was. Michael is after Shane's brother Michael.

Kind of funny side story about the name Bodi. Apparently when Shane and his buddy Marty would go "out" at night they would give themselves alter names to give out to girls. Shane's alter name was Bodi. Haha!!!

I had a good pregnancy. Everything went as expected. Bodi was born by scheduled c-section at 2:38 (or something like that) in the afternoon. I thought c-sections were supposed to be the easy route. I didn't know you could have complications. Apparently you can. Bodi would not descend. Meaning he was clinging on for dear life in there and was not wanting to be extracted. I could feel him clear up in my rib cage for days so it shouldn't have been a surprise. He had so much hair that when the doctor tried to use the vacuum on him it couldn't get any suction. He had another doctor in with him and my doctor literally got up on the operating table and was forcing Bodi down by pushing on him from the outside. The bad was rocking back and forth as he applied pressure and tried to get him to come out. It was quite a process. I'm so glad I couldn't feel anything but pressure but it still wasn't comfortable. Because of that complication I lost a lot of blood. If I remember correctly they said that I lost 90cc's of blood and a hemorrhage is when you lose 100cc's. So I was pretty close to hemorrhaging. It wasn't so bad until the healing process began. I retained a lot of water because of the blood loss. My feet were enormous and just ached. I had air trapped in me from the surgery so I would get intense pains in my shoulders. That along with the incision pain made it no fun at all. Shaylee's c-section was significantly easier.

Bodi is a great baby. He sleeps a lot. He eats fairly well. I nursed him until I went back to work and then I nursed him in the evenings. He got on a really good schedule for me early on so he ate, "played" and slept every 3 hours like clock work. I wish I knew to do that with Shaylee. He has been so much easier. Shaylee is an enormous help. We have just thoroughly enjoyed having him in our family!